MIND CHATTER…MAKE IT GO AWAY…
What is mind-chatter and where does it come from? Is it from your mind, heart or gut or from all of the above? Mind chatter can make you crazy. It will never fully go away, but here are some ways you can let go of the unwanted and annoying chatter. Don’t you want to get rid of that?
Mind chatter is made up of voices from your past: your parents, old relationships, siblings, teachers, bosses, etc… Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Your past history and all of your hurts are no longer here in your physical reality. Don’t allow them to be here in your mind, muddying your present moments. Your life is like a play with several acts. Some of the characters who enter have short roles to play. Others, much longer. But all are necessary, otherwise they wouldn’t be in the play. Embrace them all and move onto the next act.”
I love what Dr. Dyer says here in that we have to let go of things in our past. Don’t let them muddy the present waters in your mind. We need our minds to be clear, focusing on the present. To stay in the NOW, we need to pay attention to what is happening at this very minute. Most of the chatter is old stuff or future stuff that hasn’t occurred yet. Freaking out about things that you have no control over. Yes, it’s important to be mindful and set goals for your future, but you can’t be worrying about your retirement when you haven’t retired yet (and you shouldn’t be negatively mind chattering with yourself even when you are retired).
In Oprah’s Life Class at Radio City, Deepok Chopra discussed ways to stop the mind chatter and here’s the gist of what he said. JUST STOP! Everyone in the audience laughed: “Yeah right, you try it.” He said, “yeah, I get that, but really, to stop the mind chatter, you should tell yourself NEXT.” He’s saying to focus on what is coming up NEXT in your mind. Create positive thoughts to replace the negative chatter.
Here’s my experience with mind chatter. I find that when I feel calm, I have less and less mind chatter. It’s when I’m projecting my future and worrying about stuff I have no control over that the mind chatter is totally out of control. That’s when it’s in its worst form, off the charts! So I really believe that the key here is to try, as much as you can, to stay present. Go into that positive place. It’s easier to be positive when you are present and somehow, the mind chatter isn’t running off to the races. Being present means living in the moment, in the NOW! All we have is NOW, so enjoy each and every moment.
It is so annoying sometimes when I meditate. That grocery list is getting right in there, going right into my mind chatter. As this happens, I literally say to myself “NEXT. Next thought.” And it’s not about the grocery list. I am concentrating on me and the grocery list starts to disappear. Meditation is a practice that takes time and patience. Be patient with yourself. As you get into the flow of doing it consistently, your mind chatter becomes less and less. It never totally goes away because we are human. It’s life and we are conditioned that way. But take the time to take life slower. Be less hard on yourself. Most of the mind chatter is our own self-doubt created by past critics. It’s really not your voice. It’s old stuff. Get rid of the old stuff. Let the new, fresh you come into play. Be here now, today, with your new thoughts and let that negative mind chatter vanish into thin air. Aren’t you ready for that?
Article witten by: Betsy Karp
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