Do you have integrity? Do you live your life with sincerity and truth? Do you walk the walk, do you talk the talk, or are you just full of sh!t?

As you become more comfortable and quiet within yourself, it’s not about a big grand show. It’s about letting your inner voice and knowledge shine through to the world. Saying something and following it through. Staying away from gossip and negativity. It’s about owning your right to be a human being on this planet and knowing you are worthy to be here. Worthy to be alive, well, happy, successful, and abundant.

What is it that makes someone the real deal? You can kind of just tell when you walk into a room who has the confidence without the cockiness. There’s a big difference between confidence and arrogance. There isn’t a person in the world that likes someone who’s arrogant. But everyone loves someone who’s confident.

Confidence is the quieter you. It’s not boasting or bragging. It’s being humble. It’s living life to experiencing new things, new opportunities, and new people. It’s getting out of your own comfort zone and challenging yourself. Breaking down those barriers of fear and isolation and shame. It’s saying that I’m ok in my own skin. I like me. When you truly like you, you are the real deal!

The biggest relationship we have in life is the one we have with ourselves. Yes, we have mothers and fathers and brothers and sisters and lovers and children and friends. But you are brought into this world alone, as one, and you go out as one. Along the way we share it with many people, but when we really get down to it, the relationship that makes your life work is the one you have with yourself. And if you are true and honest and not only “talk the talk” but “walk the walk” (because only you know when you aren’t really being honest with yourself), well, then you are the real deal. You kind of know it when you are. Anyone can become the real deal. So speak your truth and live your truth!

Just the other day, my cousin Larry went to a funeral and saw lots of people from his past. He said, “You know what Betsy? When it’s all said and done (and I’ve known you you’re whole life), you really are the real deal. You always come from a truthful and sincere place. There’s just love with you. I’m not saying you’re always perfect, but I love you and you are the real deal.”

One way I learned to live my truth and become the real deal was by reading Don Miguel Ruiz’s “The Four Agreements.” The agreements are: 1. Be impeccable with your word. 2. Don’t take anything personally. 3. Don’t make assumptions. 4. Always do your best. These agreements are something I practice and preach every day. It’s not about gaining the approval of others, but learning to love and approve of oneself. What my cousin said was very nice and made me feel good, but again, it’s all about what I feel on the inside that matters most.

So where do you fit in this picture? Do you see yourself as the real deal? If not, be honest with yourself. Take time for you and make you happy. Relax and don’t be so hard on yourself. Learn to meditate and let go and accept yourself for who you are! This makes you the real deal!

Article written by: Betsy Karp

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